November 2022 Newsletter

November newsletter

November 2022 Newsletter

Message From Our President/CEO

 

"The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate." - Oprah Winfrey

 

This time of year reminds us to pause and celebrate the gifts and blessings in our lives. In fact, it is the practice of gratitude that cultivates our ability to receive and enjoy what we have. According to a 2021 article published by the Harvard Medical School, "gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships."

 

At our recent staff retreat, many of our team members expressed gratitude for the opportunity to spend time with each other out of the office, relaxing, playing games, laughing, and breaking bread together. As one staff person said, "We needed this." And it's true: Sharing laughter, stories, and meals together are not just fun activities; rather, these are essential ingredients for building a workplace team based on trust, safety, and of course, gratitude. 

 

What are some ways that you can practice gratitude for yourself and your loved ones today?

 

In peace,

 

Shira May

President/CEO

 

Reference:

https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-hap....

 



 

Spaces Still Available:

Register Today!

 

 

Advanced Regional Training: "A Transformative Approach to Working with Parties with High Conflict Behaviors" 

FREE AND OPEN TO PRACTICING MEDIATORS AND APPRENTICES

November 30, 9:00am-4:00pm;Bath Country Club, Bath, NY

To register, please email Ronalyn Pollack: rpollack@cdsadr.org

 

 

Basic Mediation Training

$200 fee for new volunteers; $800 for community members attending for professional development. Scholarships for mediators from underrepresented communities are available. 

 

November 28, 29, 30, & December 12, 13, 8:30am-5:00pm

Location: Notre Dame Retreat Center, Canandaigua

For more information, please email Ronalyn Pollack: rpollack@cdsadr.org

 

Would you like to sponsor one of our mediator trainings?

 

Sponsorship opportunities range from $25 to $1,000.

Your company's logo can be included in our promotional materials and on social media.

 

Please contact rpollack@cdsadr.org for more information



Highlights from our

Staff Retreat at Asbury Retreat Center

 

It was a beautiful day for our annual staff retreat, held on October 26th at the Asbury Retreat Center in Silver Lake, NY. The event was hybrid, with staff attending in-person and on Zoom from across our region. 

 

The theme of our retreat was Connection and Self-Care. We spent the morning in a Community Building Circle, playing games, telling stories, and forming our shared values and guidelines. In the afternoon, small groups of staff came up with creative formats to teach the rest of the group about some of our core principles and policies regarding non-discrimination, sexual harassment, and trauma-informed care. The day concluded with a gratitude circle where we shared what we are taking with us from the day. 

 

We hope the camaraderie and memories we shared at our retreat will remain with us for the year ahead. 

 

 

Congratulations to the Inaugural Cohort of Community Vanguards!

 

NYS Senator Jeremy Cooney joined the staff of Untrapped Ministries (UM) at an Awards Ceremony on October 27th to honor five talented young adults who completed the inaugural Community Vanguard program:

 

  • Brian Boose
  • Fartun Hussein
  • Kafiyo Mohamed
  • O'Shunn Gibson Henry
  • Hezekiah Jackson

 

The Community Vanguard program was supported by Senator Cooney and funded by the NYS Division of Criminal Justice Services (DCJS). Participants completed an employment program in which they were trained in: Peer Mediation, Restorative Circles, First Aid, and Youth Mental Health First Responders.

 

The Center for Dispute serves as the fiduciary/administrative agency for Untrapped Ministries. We are proud to congratulate these emerging community leaders!

 

Check out the slideshow from the Community Vanguard program:

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VjDO90FdF5k

Pictured from left to right: Hezekiah Jackson, Lynda Bell, O'Shunn Henry Gibson, Kafiyo Mohamed, Brian Boose, Fartun Hussein, Justin Morris, Michael Patterson

Continuing Our Learning Through the Urban League's Interrupt Racism Program:

 

"Wokeism to Ageism in the Workplace"

 

by Maia Taub

Case Manager, Monroe County Custody and Visitation Program

 

"If you're not seeking out DEI in some form . . . it's gonna fall on deaf ears, so I challenge you all to bring someone along." -- Wanda Cooper, new COO of the Urban League of Rochester

 

 

"Change is frightening. Especially to those in power." -- Hari Seldon, "Foundation" (Apple TV)

 

 

Dan Butler took us right back into the medicine bag, as he loves to put it. At our recent cohort team workshop, he pulled out wokeism and ageism in the workplace. "A fundamental danger of working to dispel stereotypes is the inherent risk that biases may be reinforced instead of eliminated," he said.

 

The word "woke" has been used in the Black community since as early as the 1930's to refer to being aware and alert to racial injustice. But the word has recently been weaponized, and there is an anti-woke identity that is the most weaponized of all. In Florida, the Stop WOKE Act, passed in the summer of this year, attempts to keep DEI training from striking at the roots of how racism (indeed, how race) began. You can read more about this act here:

 

https://www.seyfarth.com/news-insights/floridas-stop-woke-act-is-set-to-go-into-effect-on-july-1-what-should-employers-do.html

 

 

"It's almost as if [they're saying] we know what's happening . . . we don't want you to talk about it," Butler says of Florida, from the perspective of Ron DeSantis and Florida lawmakers. "It's free speech as long as it's advantageous to them."

 

 

"This is just another version of the new Jim Crow," says a cohort member.

 

 

 

When Butler says, "There are 330 million people in this country. Are we going to be controlled by a minority?" he raises an unusual juxtaposition of perspectives. Racists probably think they're the majority and BIPOC are the minority, but times have changed, and BIPOC and their accomplices present a strong opposition. "It's as if they don't want a multi-racial, multi-cultural democracy . . . Nobody's ever explained why you don't want it."

 

 

Butler joked that he was on a soapbox, but the cohort member who spoke after him was right in his summation: so many people want to preserve power and privilege and don't want to let go.

 

 

The other hot topic of the day was ageism. We were introduced to the concept of generational intelligence (GQ). Diversity has to account for all generations and micro-generations. Ageism refers to stereotypes (how we think), prejudice (how we feel), and discrimination (how we act) towards others or oneself based on age. The types of ageism are institutional, interpersonal, and internalized, roughly corresponding with the ways we think of institutional, interpersonal, and internalized racism.

 

 

We talked about the Sandwich Generation, people who are between caring for their parents and caring for their children. I think of my friend Rachel, who while she was at CDS balanced work with her children's and her parents' needs, and how glad I am that we were able to accommodate her. There was also a lot of talk about engaging younger and older people, and the disconnect between the many groups. Traditionalists, Boomers, Gen X, Millennials, Gen Z: who are we all? Some people call Gen Z the "iGeneration" because of Apple's boom since Gen Z's first years.

 

 

Watching presenters Andishey Simmons and Dan Butler interact during this discussion was about as informative as the slides themselves. They illustrated the disconnects and the ability to come together and show each other grace perfectly.

 

 

 

I will leave you with this:

 

 

One of the points that came up repeatedly during discussion was the need to prioritize doing this work. I think that's pertinent to CDS especially, since we were founded in response to racism and the topic of school integration. This work is part of our work, this work of waking up to racism and learning how to fight it. This work is a priority, too. Expect, when you come to work, to become part of that fight. 

 

Staff Updates

 

  • Welcome to Amanda McCoy, our new Case Manager in Livingston County!

 

  • A grateful farewell to Clayton Lyons, who has transitioned out of his role as our Restorative Practices Coordinator, and will continue on as a Consultant with our Monroe County FACT partnership as well as supporting Trainings and Restorative Practices. 

 

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